Sexting Tips with Examples from the Pros
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Foreplay doesn't have to be a rushed thing before sex - it can be a really intimate, exciting experience that lasts all day. With the right sexting tips and techniques, you can get the party started well before you hit the bedroom - even if you're at work or out with family. Sexting is a great way to share your fantasies and get things heated up, no matter how far apart you are. You can even set the scene for some hot, detailed experiences - like giving a virtual sexting blow job. This guide will share some steamy sexting tips with examples that'll take your teasing and foreplay to the next level.
Use erotic sexting phrases
Don't be shy - sexting is your chance to get naughty. You may have to step out of your comfort zone a bit for these tips. Start by exploring new words and phrases that feel sexy, and after you see how your partner responds to one or two of these steamy texts, it'll give you the confidence to become a sexting pro. Instead of using words like penis, blow job, hand job, vagina, coochy, and boobs, try out words like dick or cock, tight little pussy, and nipples or tits.
Instead of just saying "I want to give you a blow job," get creative and describe how you'd lick up and down their shaft until they're begging for more, twirl your tongue around the head of their cock until you taste them, and make their cock wet with your spit until they're desperate to be inside your tight, wet pussy. Show, don't tell - give your partner as many details as you can, and when you think you've added enough, add some more!
Imagine you're there in the moment, describing every detail as it happens. Break each action down into its simplest parts until it feels like an erotic novel. Detail how you want to kiss down their body, feel them under you, grind against them, and slowly slip them inside you. Draw it out to its slowest, simplest parts in the most erotic detail possible.
Tease your partner
Sexting doesn't have to be all about the dirty details. Teasing sexts can create a whole day of foreplay and set the scene for what you want to do when you get home. Let your partner know what you want to do, or what they can look forward to when they get home.
Try something like: "As soon as you walk through the door tonight, I'm gonna be on my knees ready to play." Or "I can't wait to feel you slip inside me tonight and ride you as you feel my wetness surround your cock." Teasing sexts can help spice up your sex life, increase intimacy, and make sex even hotter when you finally get home. Plus, it's fun to get lost in playful fantasies over text and build anticipation before you're together.
Turn your sexts into a story
Picture the whole thing in your head, from start to finish, with a few messages throughout the day that make your fantasy come alive. Here's what it could look like for a blowjob sexting scene:
I can’t stop thinking about you today… I want you so bad…
Imagine me on top of you, kissing your lips, tracing them down your neck, sucking gently before I slowly kiss down your chest.
Once I get to your waist, I feel how hard you are inside your boxers, and slowly rub your cock through them, smirking as I loop up at you
When you can hardly take any more teasing, I’ll take out your cock and slowly swirl my tongue around the tip until I taste you, knowing you’re ready for more
As you start moaning in pleasure, I wrap my lips around your cock, taking all of you inside my mouth, slowly and deeply, all the way to the bottom…
I feel you gently thrusting in my mouth, and I quicken my pace, feeling you get harder inside my mouth, and moaning with pleasure as I feel my pussy dripping wet with anticipation, wanting you deep inside me
I feel you start to tense up, but I don’t want you to cum yet — so I pull back, smiling and climbing on top of you, and rub the tip of your cock against my soaking wet pussy.I slowly slip you inside me, feeling every inch of you stretch me wider, and we both moan in pleasure as I lean down to kiss your neck, and gently ride you
I feel you pulsing back into me, gripping my ass and controlling my speed, going faster and faster until both of us are shaking and about to cumYou feel my pussy tighten and pulse around you, my knees shaking and barely keeping me on top, coming over and over again from your cock, but I’m not finished with you yet…
Before you cum, I slip you out of me and taste myself on your cock, teasing you one more time before taking you all inside my mouth, to fill me until I can taste you too
Teasing your partner over text is key - it's like foreplay, but over text! Everyone loves to be teased and when you do it through text, it builds up anticipation before you're even together. This sexting tip lets your partner know something's happening tonight and what to expect when they get home - it'll be all they can think about! Plus, it creates a complete, hot, and erotic scene that can be read over and over again for pleasure.
Find the right pace
Try sending a few sexts of what you'd do, then wait for their reply. You can keep unfolding your story, or ask them what they'd do next. If you're sending sexts throughout the day as foreplay, you could tease them with details over 10-15 minutes. Lead in with something like "I had the hottest dream about you last night" or "I can't stop fantasizing about you" to give the impression that you're actively fantasizing about it and getting off in the moment too.
Keep it realistic
If there are things you don't want to do, don't feel like you have to bring them up in sexting. If you don't like swallowing, don't say you do just because it sounds hot. Stick to what you actually want to do and explore fantasies that you're excited to try.
Sexting can be a great way to explore your fantasies - whether you're into something kinky or just want to let your partner know you're in the mood for something romantic. You can switch it up whenever you want and have some fun with different ideas before bringing them to life in the bedroom. Feeling like a sensual, romantic, teasing sex kitten? Or maybe you want to explore your femme domme side? Sexting can help you come up with ideas for a scene together, so you can make it happen in real life.
Sext when it’s least expected
Why wait until we get home to have some fun? Let's spice up this wedding by sending a naughty sext. Imagine your partner squirming in their seat while they read it. Something like, "I can't wait to get you out of that tux and have you lift my dress when we get home. We might not even make it home, let's pull over and play in the car!" Or, if you know of a private place we can sneak away to, "I'm so ready for you right now. Let's find a private spot so you can feel how wet I am for you."
Take a sexy selfie
If you and your partner are comfortable with it, you can spice things up with these sexting tips using visuals. Snap a sultry pic or record a hot video the night before and send it to your partner while they're at work. They'll be dying to get home to you! If you're out and about, find a secluded spot to take a selfie with a bit of flash, some cleavage, your panties, or whatever you're feeling.
If you're feeling frisky, a live-action shot can really get things going. Tease your partner by running your fingers along your body, playing with the edges of your panties, or lounging in bed with just enough of you showing. If you're feeling extra daring, snap a pic or clip of you playing with yourself. Spice it up even more by incorporating one of your favorite sex toys.